I noticed gram talking about the distant past more and more and not really talking about the recent past. Finally, she stopped drinking water. He was so scary. The problem is as I said, she insists she’s fine, that she’s always prided herself on her good memory. The first occurrence was at like 10pm one night when she called because there were kittens in her house, so me and my cousin went up to get them. /*# sourceMappingURL=https://www.redditstatic.com/desktop2x/chunkCSS/ReredditLink.f7b66a91705891e84a09.css.map*/She also thought I was my mother. I guess he was a real piece of shit to her, and as soon as he came to live there she declined so quickly. She also always carried a knife and would frantically check for it several times an hour until she fell asleep. [–]frolicking_elephants 26 points27 points28 points 1 year ago (0 children). It said something like "We're dealing with memory problems. [–]Telanore 48 points49 points50 points 1 year ago (2 children). His life is just a 4 hour cycle of misery, it's one of the cruelest things I've ever heard, [–]fuckitx 161 points162 points163 points 1 year ago (4 children), [–]Practical_Cartoonist 100 points101 points102 points 1 year ago (3 children), "You won 3 Nobel Prizes and your totally-still-alive wife has agreed to a threesome with Cheryl Tiegs, so look forward to that later tonight. At first, she would just stop talking in the middle of a sentence, or walk into a room and forget why she went in there, but then it progressed into walking into a room and staring blankly for several minutes. She’s already so bad and she’s still deteriorating. [–]Jessilee113 33 points34 points35 points 1 year ago (2 children). Throughout this whole ordeal her husband was 100% of sound mind. I remember my grandfather would hallucinate people stealing his things and then hide them and not know where they were. [–]froopty1 46 points47 points48 points 1 year ago (0 children). Oliver Sacks in his book Hallucinations says this is fairly common, and he suspected there is a very high incidence of music hallucinations among elderly people that goes unreported for fear of being diagnosed as crazy. She'll just forget again. First, it was little things -but very noticeable-, such as words. He would try to teach me how to box, but I'm in middle school. Upon arriving home, I learned that my mother had been on the phone all day trying to take care of the car situation. She told my mother, that she was embarrassed, because, "what would people think about having such a well travelled mother?". He doesn’t remember how to work his phone, his girlfriend won’t pick up, and even if I did tell him these things, he wouldn’t remember. [–]jonnyclueless 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago (0 children). A few months later, my dad passed and my sibling and I became full time caretakers and poa's for my mom. My father was the same... One day he invited me over for dinner and we had a good time, I showed him my latest job review, which was the most-glowing job review I'd ever had. I hope you all get to rest soon and find peace, caretakers and your mom alike. It all happened in her mind. [–]bookworthy 29 points30 points31 points 1 year ago (4 children). my dad and I have been looking into a care facility, but ultimately the decision is up to dad and he wants her to stay at home as long as possible... which we both agree won't be much longer, but for now he's a bit in denial. Or she demands us to say/hug her goodbye after we just did that. <3, [–]retyars 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children). At first, we noticed that he would start saying weird things. Her husband died 4 years ago, one son lives 200 miles away, the other (my Dad) is so busy with work that he’s barely got time to sleep, never mind going over and helping her every day. ", [–]ResplendentQuetzel 83 points84 points85 points 1 year ago (1 child). But he seems happy, loves saying hello to kids and animals whenever he's out, and knows my mom is looking out for him. I've talked to my sister about it (we're both in our 30s). It has also led to a lot of financial and emotional stress on my parents. Alzheimers Films, Dementia Films and Documentaries. [–]Konsecration 47 points48 points49 points 1 year ago (10 children). [–]piquat 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (4 children). One of the saddest days too. Looking back, there were many more signs. [–]inaraiseverything 51 points52 points53 points 1 year ago (0 children). That is scary. Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion! That nasty beast in bed A? I'm sure it'll make their lives easier and relieve you're mind some as well. Even now, she really is incapable of doing much for herself, but there are still times like when I ask if I can watch tv with her, and she'll nod her head yes. The neurological explanation is basically: Breaking news Then I hit a point where I accepted it. [–]viskels 29 points30 points31 points 1 year ago (0 children). Please look into getting her placed somewhere. A lot of people never really get to say goodbye at all, but when end of life lucidity does happen it is tragically wonderful. Same thing has happened with my grandmother. “...£2...” Early warning signs and symptoms of dementia include misplacing items, poor work performance, and withdrawal from social activities. I agree with this. Rendered by PID 30187 on r2-app-0c7928e79e59e4f94 at 2021-02-08 23:54:48.724325+00:00 running 433cb47 country code: US. Megathread It gradually took longer and longer because he loved rainbows and used to make as many bubbles as possible to see the rainbows in them. That's why they call it "the long goodbye". My dad (who didn't have dementia, but who was not a reader either) enjoyed listening to Martin Jarvis read Just William stories. Send us a postcard! He doesn't want to go anywhere really without my mom or me if I am there, because he gets anxious. He doesn't have good days or bad days, he's just been on a predictable decline. He died in January and she passed the following December. My ex was really good at being super cold and not that emotional, so it had a negative impact but he didn’t talk about it or show it much. [–]OregonMike1954 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (1 child). You're not alone and you're not a bad person. Before the car accident, she would often forget certain words in casual conversations and would have to be reminded what the word she was looking for was. My Oma had alzheimers. In fact, I think the dementia made it worse. My mom's not that bad yet, but it's draining to have the same conversation multiple times cause her short term memory is crap. He departed Earth 3 months later. Or if I'm putting on her socks and shoes, she'll lift her feet up so I can put them on her. So we checked to see if she had been taking any medication we weren't aware of, and that was a dead end. Try making a somewhat complex talking point, and see if they follow you - I noticed my father couldn’t keep up with conversations like this anymore, even though he was highly intelligent and used to talk circles around me. [–]MyLouBear 940Answer Link93 points94 points95 points 1 year ago* (2 children). thanks. She’s still alive, but I seriously doubt she has that many years left. And idk, it was really nice because I hadn't expected her to remember at all (: I don't know why I'm telling you this, sorry, [–]sparklyrainbowstar 21 points22 points23 points 1 year ago (0 children). He was a skinny old dude but tough as nails. It had been going on for 7 years more until her passing. It won’t happen very often that he/she is back to their normal self. [–]sykopoet 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago* (1 child). (Yes, I looked into it. He also has hearing problems. She surprised them all. It's really a tough job taking care of someone you love who doesn't remember who you are, or who doesn't behave the way they used to. You're not equipped to deal with this. She also started calling me a liar because she couldn't remember things. Anyhow, I'm not sad about it anymore, and haven't been for a few years now. Last thanksgiving my grandma asked my mom if my name was Hillary (it's not). She showed me a sheet with some easy math tasks like 100-1 and 99+1 she asked my father to solve. Thanks for your cooperation and enjoy the discussion! He's threatening to get a gun. This could go on for HOURS and she was honestly less agitated than if you tried to bring her back to reality. At this point, you have to guess what she’s trying to say but you never truly know. “...what?” Dad (75) is quite well, but chooses to ignore the significance of her slipping, and understandably so - who'd want to acknowledge their spouse of 50 years is experiencing what amount to end of life problems? She’s in her 90’s now and barely remembers any of us. He got a bit mean spirited towards mum, which she found very hard, she couldn't separate his words from the disease. Her mother had been dead since 1955. He constantly asked where we were going, what we were doing, and why. It breaks my heart we used to do everything together. Fortunately he was well enough off that near the end he had round-the-clock caregivers. Even when my mom saw that, she didn't think it was a cause for concern. Report comments that violate these rules. My grandma who lived with us at the time started telling my aunts and uncles that my mom was stealing her money. I want to move away. Consider doing an AMA request instead. He shouldn’t be driving, and has admitted it, but his new girlfriend made sure he has a car so that she doesn’t always have to drive him places. [–]beckery 225 points226 points227 points 1 year ago (6 children). No text is allowed in the textbox. I hope you make it through okay. that happened. What videogame have you played the most, and why? He apparently started going through protocols shouting at her to "drop it" and "show him her hands" and when she didn't immediately comply (probably because he was demented and not making sense) he straight up tackled her. This is going to be a long one so buckle up? I asked her one time what year she thought it was (2007). I told my dad, and he immediately became concerned. Remember to take care of yourself and try to find someone in your life (be it a partner, a close friend, or even an internet stranger) who you can cry/vent to, when life becomes too much <3, [–]i_boop_cat_noses 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (5 children). In a "Mom, you called me this afternoon" sort of way. Well gram remembered all the answers long before any symptoms showed up and they weren't something she forgot. I went to visit her in the hospital. I had a patient who used to ask when her mum would come and pick her up. My grandma would hear music. They are short, and fun and the background of life in the first half of … This meant that surprisingly, despite a dire diagnosis, Barbara was calm and assured in her sanity and slightly frustrated that everyone else was causing a fuss. They know that they know you but don't remember you. Then his memory got dramatically worse and he entered a sort of blissful ignorance. By this point the police knew she was going downhill but because you never want to tell a person with dementia they're wrong, they came anyway. In Dad's case, his monthly social security was too high to qualify (but less than half his monthly cost of care), so we had to direct it into a trust and name the state of Arizona as the sole benificiary. [–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago (1 child). More than half of the women in my mum’s family have had dementia. He recovered somewhat after the UTI was treated, but his decline into dementia started in earnest that day. She's gone downhill fast but I know it gets worse and I'm so scared . .LalRrQILNjt65y-p-QlWH{fill:var(--newRedditTheme-actionIcon);height:18px;width:18px}.LalRrQILNjt65y-p-QlWH rect{stroke:var(--newRedditTheme-metaText)}._3J2-xIxxxP9ISzeLWCOUVc{height:18px}.FyLpt0kIWG1bTDWZ8HIL1{margin-top:4px}._2ntJEAiwKXBGvxrJiqxx_2,._1SqBC7PQ5dMOdF0MhPIkA8{height:24px;vertical-align:middle;width:24px}._1SqBC7PQ5dMOdF0MhPIkA8{-ms-flex-align:center;align-items:center;display:-ms-inline-flexbox;display:inline-flex;-ms-flex-direction:row;flex-direction:row;-ms-flex-pack:center;justify-content:center} [–]moelha 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children). It breaks my heart because I KNOW she knows something is wrong with her, but she doesn’t know what. We haven’t paid for any of them for 2 years but they still keep coming. Then she’d tell us stories about all those folks. She was briefly hospitalized for this, and as the hallucinations continued in the hospital she swore my uncle had brought the dishwasher. But you never want to make them unhappy or distressed, so you normally would try to change the conversation like, "Hey don't worry, I don't even remember what I ate yesterday!" Real cats behave the polar opposite. She told me she wanted me to rake up all the brown stuff from the lawn. He forgot how much he disliked my mother, but he also forgot how much he liked me. The sweetest man I ever knew would shout at his grandchildren and make them cry and then start crying himself. She didn't like to read anymore and she once tore through books voraciously, however, she know longer could remember what she'd read previously or understood plots. So I'm at least happy she felt happiness. My father started getting lost on sales calls. I remember her telling me that she didn't know what to do with herself anymore. How do you deal with that? He didn’t even forget her birthday, or their anniversary. [–]HollyWoodHut 17 points18 points19 points 1 year ago (0 children). About three years ago, shit hit the fan and I had to intervene with my parents. On top of that, the cognitive dysfunction and sometimes the outright combativeness of the loved one can really wear on someone. I was angry about it for maybe a year. I always found it interesting when you would learn of this kind of background for the sweetest people. A major in the salvation army, a helper to thousands of families and people. It's hard. Not in a "not paying attention" kind of way. [–]Get-ADUser 66 points67 points68 points 1 year ago (0 children). [–]stolpsgti 20 points21 points22 points 1 year ago (0 children). Then he'd start saying things that just seemed 'off'. My mom used to do something similar. [–]dikitty225 14 points15 points16 points 1 year ago (0 children). Sort of like, flight or fight. I was her first granddaughter and named after her mother (whom she'd also forgotten about), and my dad told me all the time that she would spend days without saying a word, then suddenly ask about me, or light up when he said my name. :), [–]feinzuckerhereiam 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (2 children). Ouch, that last paragraph hit so close to home. doesn't know our cat. [–][deleted] 1020Answer Link101 points102 points103 points 1 year ago (5 children). That’s the part that kills me the most. [–]vivimaze 126 points127 points128 points 1 year ago (3 children). My dad said that all the cars were coming at him, and he didn’t know why. I hope you have someone there you can talk to about this, and relatives to give you a break from care taking. She was an organist when she worked. Also, remember that your loved one is suffering from a disease that impacts their memory and sometimes their personality. Why don't I rake that up tomorrow (or in a few hours, or next Monday--basically wait it out.) There was also other stuff, like she was really into cooking/baking particular recipes, ones I grew up with, which she just sort of forgot about. on a regular basis which made the mother in law both stressed out and sad. One of the causes of death was Alzheimer's. Totally believable though considering she is 100 years old. I was so sad that none of his family ever visited him. Multiple copies of Oprah’s “O”, Good Housekeeping, Cosmo, you name it. [–][deleted] 234 points235 points236 points 1 year ago (11 children). Mom was still living with my dad, who was doing jack shit in taking care of her, and by that time, she really did need extra help. I appreciate it. My stepfather, who had always valued treating people with politeness and respect would get ANGRY. You must calmly and directly explain their situation to them. [–]fruitydeath 6630Answer Link662 points663 points664 points 1 year ago (38 children), We were visiting my great aunt. She cannot drive, cook, or take care of herself. My grandfather heard me and had me sit down at the kitchen table with him to have a talk about not hitting girls. Just an overall fantastic, badass, tough dude. My father had a form of dementia brought on by Diabetes. He'd get frustrated at blanking on something once in a while but nothing more. Grandma: Slip... slip... slippers.... did i lose my slippers? The food thing is common with dementia. When I did my college placement at Alzheimer's Society, I noticed that some of them would stay stuff like, "I don't remember how old I am. Next Step Hear more personal stories from people with dementia in the full story at Buzzfeed . At his care conference, one son showed up and afterwards he bitterly told me “We do not want this man back home. It was really hard to see him deteriorate. My aunt and uncle did their best to look after her In Florida but it took a heavy toll due to my grandmother having a hard time understanding what was going on, and she was the type to let you know what was on her mind and not in a nice way. upset, but it did the exact opposite. Love and care for them during these times, and when their time comes, remember them as the person they were before the disease. The agent explained that she had been explaining the process to my mom all day and that she was concerned about my mom because she seemed very confused and couldn’t understand what was going on. It seemed so unreal until the day I tried to pat her hand and she came at me. On top of taking care of the great aunt and her husband, she was (and still is) working. Some things happened early in his diagnosis that were sad but also kind of interesting. My grandmother has dementia and I've seen how drastically a personality change there can be when illness shows up. 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Her family says "she was always so sweet!" Watching her go through all those emotions a second time was almost worse than the first. They killed him! Or he’d think certain technologies connected to each other, like a tv to a old record player, that sort of thing. [–]AlgorithmicDog 82 points83 points84 points 1 year ago (5 children). [–]Majikkani_Hand 83 points84 points85 points 1 year ago* (2 children). One about face that he did was that his taste buds changed and he rediscovered foods that he once disliked and now loved. Then one day when I was there she called the police because there were strangers in her house...aka, me. I believe it has to do with gaps in memory so they assume someone is stealing their car keys because they can't find them but actually because they misplaced them... Other times there is no rhyme or reason. This was triggered by her consuming far too much sugar (soda). My mother is always put on a pedestal, she's "always right" so nobody would argue with her. [–]Sweetpeas-n-ladybugs 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children). London, England, United Kingdom RSS Feed - blog.alz.co.uk/feed + Follow RSS Site - blog.alz.co.uk About Site - Alzheimer's Disease International (ADI) is the global voice on dementia. [–]threadbaregypsy[] 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (0 children). I’m not him so I can’t speak from experience, but I know from living in that house and assisting with his care during our relationship that it put huge strain on several things (the family dynamic, his relationship with his father, his parents relationship). Don't remind her of stuff like that... it isn't worth it. The very first thing that I ever noticed was he came to visit and I'd given him registrations for some quads that I had at his cabin. I was astounded but I guess he had a total personality flip. to pay for his care, then once those funds ran out, the state took over. I had the most flexible schedule and often drove him to appointments. Add in a personality that can never admit is wrong and it leads to some frustrating, but mostly just very sad conversations. 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